Looking for the soul mate...

Looking for the soul mate...

Why do we look for the "soul mate"?

Our soul has a memory. At least, this is what Plato claims when he says that our soul, before inhabiting our body, knows all those subjects that are the subject of theoretical research and the memories of the previous life.

During its embodiment, however, it forgets them. However, it has the possibility of remembering them again and often succeeds in doing so. If the above is true, then we have a chance of meeting our "soul mate", because even if we don't recognize this person at first glance, our soul will remember him/her and hopefully warn us in time! But shouldn't we expect everything from our souls? Is it not as simple and easy as it sounds?


There are people who, for years and years, try to meet other people in search of their other half, but they never meet them, and the eternal search goes on. They don't know what they are looking for, or they are not really looking because the real need for the ultimate union has not been awakened in them.

To find something, you have to look for it, but according to Plato, no one really looks for something unless he is truly convinced that he doesn't have it. It is this need that sensitizes our soul. Awareness gives rise to the desire for ultimate union with the ideal partner who will complete us, make us "whole", and make us forget our existential loneliness. No one falls in love if they are satisfied, even to some extent, with what they have and what they are. Love is born out of a depressive charge that is characterized by the impossibility of finding something in one's daily life worth living.


Edgar Cayce refers in his readings to this intense human need for companionship. He says that it is often expressed as a longing, a directive for union with God, a deep desire for union with another human being. Perhaps the time has come to meet our other half, the person who alone is worthy of being loved and cherished. Unfortunately, we often confuse love at first sight and all that "magical" storm and turmoil in our soul and heart that is stirred up by meeting our "soul mate" because they have all those common characteristics with what one might feel upon meeting their soul mate.

Many sociologists have analyzed and described the "turbulent states" caused by love, and one of them, Durkheim, describes them by saying that the person who experiences them has the impression that he is governed by forces that come from outside, that drag him along and that he cannot control. He feels that he has been transported into a world different from the one in which his daily life, his private life, flows. In this world, in which one lives when one is in love, life is not only intense but also qualitatively different. One is indifferent and forgets oneself completely, giving oneself wholeheartedly to the common interests. These forces often feel the need to expand, then this higher life is experienced with such intensity and in such an exclusive way that it overflows the conscience and almost completely puts aside selfish banal concerns.

Reincarnation and the painful quest

If we accept the theory of reincarnation, which is a common concept in countless philosophies and religions, and from which is derived the belief that we will one day meet our soul mate, then it is far from certain that we will meet them in this life, for our soul makes countless journeys until it has fully fulfilled the purpose for which we were reincarnated. Along the way, we will be helped by all those we have hated or loved in previous lives, and whom we are supposed to meet on each new journey. One may ask, "But is it not wrong for the soul to be born under these conditions? These conditions are often so unfavorable to the twin souls that they are tormented until they are found, but whether the circumstances are favorable or unfavorable, and whether or not they ultimately receive satisfaction from each other, indicates whether they are twin souls after all. This is part of the quest and part of our evolution, so it is not wrong.


However, two soul mates or twin souls do not necessarily have to be lovers.

Two people can have behaviors and experiences from childhood, or they can have certain qualities or abilities from birth that are a perfect match for someone else. They don't even have to be of the opposite sex. They can be people of the same gender. They can be friends or life partners, but they are two souls. You can say that they are the appropriate answer to the question of our own soul.

Every person is a question, and every person is an answer, and when two people meet, and one of them is a question and the other is the answer to that question, then they are twin souls. But unfortunately, most of the time, either two questions meet, or two answers meet. One person is the answer to the other person's question, because everyone is both a question and an answer to someone else. These two souls, whose qualities are a perfect match, become either friends, or partners, or lovers, or all of the above, the moment they meet, and find a satisfaction they have never experienced before, precisely because their whole life has been a question and suddenly it is answered.


This can happen early or late in life, but there comes a time in most souls' lives when they meet someone who is the answer to their soul's question. Souls don't need to know what the question is or what the answer is to someone else, and of course they don't know their own answer either, but when it comes,, they know they have found it, they feel great satisfaction and fulfillment, and subconsciously they know it is the answer to their question. These two souls may have been friends or lovers or parents with a child in the past, but there is no doubt that they have known each other for many years and many years before in a previous life. Too often people don't realize it when they meet their twin soul, or vice versa;, very often they know it and still don't feel sure.

Karma, stars, and our "better half"

A special branch of astrology, karmic astrology, deals with these kinds of relationships, the so-called karmic ones.

When we are in a karmic relationship, we feel as if we are not in control of events. We are confronted with past functions and emotions that we are not fully aware of. The reason for the relationship is not understood until it is over. There is a "plan" going on, the karmic plan, that is truly understood when the lesson is learned. In the person we meet, there is something to be learned and assimilated into our consciousness that will help us evolve, mature and move forward. When the "student" is ready, the "teacher" will appear, and all karmic relationships, whether they are romantic, friendly, or professional, have these qualities.


However, this whole process of personal evolution, with whatever that means, such as many love experiences, failed partnerships or friendships, can take many years to complete so that our new ideas and transformations can fulfill karmic plans. However, the golden rule for ensuring "auspicious" karmic plans from reincarnation to reincarnation is "What you sow, you shall reap".


There can be, and we can know, more than one soul mate. We learn a lot from life to life, and there are many commitments to fulfill. We come into contact with many people who have some messages to give us or some lessons to teach us, and correspondingly we come into contact with others who have a very specific purpose. Too often we ignore the messages and the people who fulfill that purpose, or sometimes we understand much later, after they have left our lives, what they were trying to teach us. The lessons are sometimes pleasant and easy, but sometimes painful.

There are many astrological indicators to identify and analyze karmic or soul mate connections. There are also some astrological connections, such as those of the North and South Nodes and the Saturn Nodes, which are examined in the synastry of astrological birth charts for possible past connections. Clues can be found by looking at the date, time and place of the two people's meeting, in addition to the natal charts.


After reading all of the above, you may be wondering if there is a way to attract a soul mate into our lives, or a twin soul mate for that matter. Although many books have been written telling you how to do this, it is ultimately impossible to discover your karmic order and implement it in such a way that your perfect, ideal twin soul mate will show up at your doorstep. Unfortunately, it does not happen that way! You can open your heart and mind to seeking and ultimately finding a beautiful loving relationship, but chances are you will not use the words "soul mate" when you meet them. Why is that?

Simply because when most of us hear the phrase "soul mate," we think of someone perfect. Someone who is gorgeous, brilliant, successful, funny, and of course happy and kind. We think of someone who wants exactly what we want out of life. We think of a couple who met on the street and fell madly in love or something like that. We think that there will never be any conflict in the couple except for an "annoying" conversation about say, what colors to paint the house. We imagine someone who is so seemingly perfect that from the first time they meet, they begin to act telepathically. All the problems and challenges in our lives will suddenly end and we will bury them deep in our memories as if they never existed because our "soul mate" has arrived and her presence is so otherworldly and amazing that everyone else, past and present, pales in comparison!


Love, unfortunately, doesn't come that way, and most of us probably know that very well. But let's look at it another way. Let's say you are the other half of someone who is also looking. Shouldn't you be collecting the same qualities? Doesn't he or she expect you to be flawless, happy, beautiful, and successful? Of course they do, but you are not exactly like that. No one is perfect, just like the people you are looking for are not perfect. Your other half is just like you. With negatives and positives, her/his quirks and gifts. They may have the same preferences and habits as you or completely different ones. If you get into such a fantasy of searching for the ideal, then the whole psychological game is only with yourself. You will have created an illusion that hides the danger of not taking the risk of falling in love with a real, living person by rejecting opportunities and finding faults in everyone. This situation you have created for yourself will certainly bring a lot of loneliness and frustration.


The surest way to provoke developments and eventually find ourselves with our other half is not to define him. Not to imagine the look in his eyes, his face, or the color of his eyes. Not to persistently and agonizingly search for it in every new encounter. Let us cultivate our character and personality, relax, and keep our hearts and eyes open so that we can discern emotions in their essence. Then we will be able to distinguish the real from the illusion. Then we will attract a partner who matches our own level of development.

Leave the rest to fate. Trust that what is meant for you will come. ❤️

 

 

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